JJ Unplugged S01E06: Holding It Together (Until We’re Not)

In this episode we unpack the illusion of “having it all together,” why we go silent or overshare, and the micro-cracks that show up at work. From travel meltdowns and customer-service personas to routines on vacation, feedback landmines, and the surprisingly practical science of crying, this is a grounded, funny, and human conversation about staying real when life asks for performance.

• Spa day brain spirals, “keeping it together” on deadlines, and the crash that hits later

• The Italy and Milan hotel stories - calm outside, panic inside

• Why we go quiet to feel safe, and when oversharing becomes a connection bid

• Calling each other in with care so regulation can happen faster

• Masks, phone-support voices, and the cost of being “professional” all the time

• Giving enough of yourself to build trust without burning out

• Multiple accounts, validation loops, filters vs authenticity, and shifting standards

• Protecting “me time” on trips, mini grounding breaks, food routines, and realistic self-care

• Bluntness, safety, and why some conversations aren’t worth the fallout

• Choosing your channel, your timing, and your desired outcome

• Water-sign depth, learning to process fast vs festering

• Crying 101: cold compress for puffiness, warm compress for dry eyes

• Cracks don’t make you weak. They make you human. Think kintsugi - gold in the repairs.

Content note: Mentions stress, anxiety, dysregulation, and family travel panic.

P.S. We’re not medical or mental health professionals. Everything we share on this podcast is based on our own personal experiences and opinions. If you’re dealing with any mental health concerns, we always recommend speaking to a qualified professional.